I guess I have more work to do.
My six-year-old son just walked up behind me writing this post and when he saw these photos he said, “Oh my gosh! That woman is so fat, her fat is coming out of her shirt.”
“That’s not nice to say, that someone is so fat,” I said.
And he looked at me quizzically.
I’m sitting here wondering what is correct.
I don’t want my children to just be politically correct and feel like they can’t speak of what they see and use words that they know.
Fat isn’t inherently a bad word.
And that seems to be partly what Brazilian photographer Miarana Godoy is saying with her photos of large-sized women in lingerie.
Women reclaim the word 'fat' in Empowering Me body positive photo series details Godoy’s project: “The photographer went on to explain that she wanted to highlight that being fat doesn't mean a person is unhealthy, and pointed out that thinner people also experience health problems.”
You can't tell if someone is healthy by looking at them. Regardless of whether they are fat or thin. You cannot tell just by looking at them.
Photos can tell any story. The real story lies behind the images. In our lives. And whether we are healthy or not should not become some new standard to self-acceptance either.
We don't want to lose one way to judge ourselves simply to be replaced by another.
We need to love ourselves no matter what. Fat. Skinny. Healthy. Unhealthy.
And while I know my son would never say something to someone’s face about being “fat,” I want to make sure he knows that a person’s size has nothing to do with his or her worth.